Overwhelmed by how much they all look to me to take the lead. I also don't want my toddler to hurt the baby by mistake (he is a boy and plays rough). Because there are times when just knowing that someone else has felt the same emotions and experienced similar discouragement makes me feel less isolated and more like a normal human again. I did it for one day and realised I should not have done so.The 5 week mark is the time when they really switch on to being held and have worked out how to achieve that (little rascals). I finally realized that some days I need to just stay home. Once the pictures are in the book, you can ask him what words he'd like on each page or add a simple text yourself. When I was at the end of my tether I found what ended up being the best thing I ever bought.....the fisher price rainforest bouncer chair. I can plan the day and think about what I want to do and what is most important. Having two young children is so much harder than just having one. But then 4 o’clock rolls around and I’m not sure I’ll be able to make it another hour! As soon as I gave myself the freedom to stay at home, it felt like a weight was lifted off. Being a FTM is hard, but going from one to two kids is no joke either, and I feel like it either isn't discussed or is downplayed. We are human. And know that there are other moms out there who have felt totally overwhelmed with their role as a mama, too. If you can try and do one thing, tone down the shouting. just thought of another one - Jumping was a favourite occupation. Couldn't the nanny have the baby for an hour between feeds so you can spend some time with DS? This method worked for me. One of my most popular blog posts is the one I wrote about flying on your own with a baby. If you do feel very overwhelmed by trying to cope with a newborn and a toddler then it would be wise for you to seek help from a professional. Acknowledge his feelings. My DD is 18 weeks now and trust me it DOES get better. climb up, jump down, climb up, jump down... between that and the little indoor trampoline she had a great circuit and definitely wore some energy off when bored! So if you are feeling overwhelmed with the stage that you are in with your children right now, take comfort in these three things: 1. spanky yes, I'm very aware I could have pnd. Research shows that as many as 19 percent of new moms experience depression after giving birth. The newborn days are behind us now, and there are a few things I learned along the way that can help you ease into life with a newborn and a toddler. Keeping surfaces (tables, counters, dresser tops, etc.) What you’re feeling isn’t uncommon but it’s a long way from ideal. I want him to be constantly impressed by my ability to keep it all together and still be positive, beautiful, happy, and a joy to be around. Maybe ds has a friend with a broody mum who would come round and cuddle dd for a while? Also, not sure how old your DS is but those usborne books where they need to find the duck on every page were heaven sent to me. But know this: You will not be the first mom to feel this way, and you will figure things out. I could save that time to bond with my toddler as he was feeling neglected with the new arrival. 3. The desperation of trying keep your head above water, yet feeling like you’ve failed. So I will give myself some time to adjust. So take it easy and stay at home if you want to. Thank goodness it's the weekend and dh is here to share the load. In this post, you will learn 31 tricks and tips for coping with a toddler and newborn. The first few weeks I knew I needed whatever sleep I could get, but now it is more important for me to get those few minutes in the morning to myself before everyone else gets up. You will be more overwhelmed, anxious and exhausted than ever. I know the sling probably seemed a good idea, but it has got baby used to being held all the time. Feeling overwhelmed with a newborn. She is now I'm in a bit of a routine, will be put down to kick about on a mat or sit in her bouncy chair and I can then play with DS. This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 46 messages.). I was nursing my 3 week old, toys of every variety were strung about the living room, and diapers, wipes, and burps cloths were drowning me. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. Jealous of all the time people spent with DS because people kept taking him out to help me out. But being mamas is what we are, and it is the task and purpose that we have been given. Up to about 6 weeks, I think I cried most days. My son is almost 2, full of energy and home full time with me since daycare isn't an option for us right now. It was becoming apparent that a lot of the overwhelm I felt was coming from not feeling like household chores were getting done, and our lives were running on chaos! You can get your toddler playing independently and then you can get a few things done around the house. Guilty for feeling bad towards a little baby and people who just wanted to help. My baby loved it. No I'm not broody! FINAL THOUGHTS ON MANAGING WITH A NEWBORN AND TODDLER. With a toddler and a newborn, it does not take long before the house can look like an absolute disaster. You have done the hardest bit. If you're feeling good, it's going to rub off on her as well. We sent DS1 to nursery 3 half days and that was awful for him and us. But don’t panic – introducing the action plan to see you through Whether you love being up in the night with your baby or you’re desperately trying to soothe her back to sleep, things can definitely take a (sleep-deprived) turn when your toddler wants to join the 2am party. Kids thrive on routine and I know that I do to (and I bet most of you out there are the same). Take care of yourself Tandem nursing is a lot of work, not only physically, but also emotionally. - £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, How have you shown your appreciation for the NHS? Why don’t they remember to turn off the lights, and pick-up their shoes, and run the dishwasher, and sweep up the spilled cat food without being asked? A newborn can bring a whirlwind of activity and excitement to your life — and plenty of stress and fatigue, too. Baby cries...pick it up, cuddle until quiet and contented and put it down. I followed the baby whisperers advice. I'm feeling so down and overwhelmed. I am feeling bad that I can't give him my full attention any longer because I'm nursing or busy with baby. I found that one book saved my sanity in those early days with sensible, easy to digest advice.I spent the first 8 weeks crying on and off and walking into another room if I felt overwhelmed. Well today I am feeling very emotional and overwhelmed with everything. Help Your Child Cope With Feeling Overwhelmed. Ha! I am feeling so overwhelmed, we moved to a new place 3 weeks ago, I am still living in the midst of a million boxes, running my business from home, and my toddler has the flu I just recovered from. Take a breath before you react to anything, I found hat helped.No support is a killer, make the most of that nanny when you can. My DH worked away a lot too and we had no family close by.I will come back later but just to say, you're not a shit mum and it is a perfectly normal feeling. Jungle book was another great favourite when I needed a little longer to recuperate (or shower, go to the loo AND eat). That some days you can’t catch your breath and there’s nothing to hold on to. Burp clothes and baby blankets are scattered about, toy cars are in the couch and under the chairs, and pillows are on the ground.... consequently, my brain can pretty quickly go from clam, cool, and collected, to a total jumbled mess of frantic thoughts. (And I went through all the same things again, although this time I was prepared for it and it wasn't so bad as DS and DD1 were already used to sharing me. Ds has actually been such a good boy - yes, he's boisterous and into everything but he's not been any different to how a just-turned-two year old should be. That is NOT a joy and pleasure to be around. Ds goes out twice a week with our old nanny for a bit of variety but I yearn to be able to spend some time alone with him. But there is nothing extra we can do to speed it up. It take discipline and effort. Do this over and over and you should notice that gradually she will soothe. Pretty sure that day is not fun for him, either. I hope you join me! It will get better - eventually. It does get easier, and you will be so proud of yourself and them! Postpartum depression can appear up to a year after the baby is born, so don’t dismiss the possibility if you’re six months in and just start to feel the mental pains of it all. A mum of two, full-on but super cute little boys, Shelley is completely addicted to gentle attachment parenting, loves baby-wearing, fills the role of jersey cow for her youngest child, inhales books about child brain development, is happily married to her partner of 13 years and gets amongst it with the 4 yr olds on kindy parent days. We are his servants, He is our master. Even 30 minutes can do wonders (and I don’t think your husband will be complaining about your suddenly brighter attitude, because I know mine won't ). I know that being a stay at home mom can be draining and depleting. Tips for dealing with newborn and a toddler - posted in Birth-6 Months: Hi I am feeling overwhelmed about the upcoming birth of my second. Whether you're a first-time parent or a veteran, consider 10 practical tips to keep stress under control. I feel like I'm in mourning for just having ds on his own. If your child is easily overwhelmed by lights, sound, and activity, you can: Keep television and radio off or on low volumes. Her life and the way she mothers WILL look different because me and her are two different people. I’m not going to sugar coat it: There were definitely some rough moments where I was overwhelmed with my toddler and newborn. Not because it'll turn them into axemurderers but because it will make you feel more in control. It was bliss when she finally napped though!Finally, if you can get 5/10 mins to yourself to just do the meditative breathing thing where you clear your mind and just count breaths over your upper lip; to 10 then start again, and gently push away other thoughts; it sounds odd but I found it a bit of a lifesaver. 2. We also just recently moved into a house and we have so much to do to get it all set up. With a newborn and toddler in tow, it’s impossible (or maybe possible, just stressful and unenjoyable) to keep to a strict, minute by minute routine. I am the director, the scheduler, the planner, the seer, the doer, the organizer, and the manager. The oldest was 2-1/2, then 1 year old, and the youngest was a newborn. Some great advice on here. Avoid big crowds and high-activity settings like the mall or the playground on a sunny Saturday morning. Oh you poor sausage.I'm watching this thread with interest as my son is 12 months and new baby is due in a month. I could dry my hair, go to the loo, wash dishes. It's awful when they set each other off crying. So you think that when it came to flying with a toddler and a baby after my second daughter was born, I’d be like, yup, I’ve got this. Even if your DS just finds the duck and puts the duck sticker on the duck picture. I used to get my toddler fixed up with an activity and then sit down to nurse the baby. I think it started to get much easier when DD1 reached 6mths and started eating rather than BFeeding. Adding my tuppence to all of this as I had DS when DD was 20 months old and it was very, very hard. I can get my shower in if I want to. Baby cries...pick it up, cuddle until quiet and contented and put it down. Use disposable plates: I wish I had this idea before because I had to wash a lot of dishes which now I think was a waste of my time. You can also help one handed.I found scheduling the time really helped as my 20 mo DD had a stream of low key changing activities to occupy her and I didn't have to leave the house, just ticked them off the list. So here are some ideas for when you’re tired, stressed and overwhelmed to help you reboot. Report as Inappropriate. l. It really does all feel like too much! And I feel like a total loser. I know it's a phase but it when you're sitting in it, it feels interminable. Dd is just 5 weeks old and feeds, wants to be held constantly. Thrive Themes And, ultimately, that's what we all want: a happy, confident kid. Waking up when my toddler gets up never fails to leave me feeling like I am behind ALL DAY LONG. I feel like such a shit mum and that I'm failing us. But it is a discipline you will never regret! Her circumstances, personality, life experiences, family life, etc. It will get better. 3. It's lovely to hear all your supportive advice and experiences, not to mention the kind words. I also felt pressure to say yes whenever I was asked by someone to go somewhere with them. I was heartbroken for DS when DD1 came and ended up slightly rejecting her.Could you get the nanny to take the baby out instead so you could have time with DS? I like the sorting beans/pasta idea, although getting ds to sit down for more than two mins to do something like read will be a challenge. It might be cleaning out my sons pants drawer (which was yesterday's task), or organizing my own closet, or cleaning out a kitchen cabinet that has gotten out of hand. £200 voucher to be won, Feeling overwhelmed...toddle r and newborn, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. They will be able to talk you through any concerns that you may have. I followed the baby whisperers advice. I know what you mean about the spinning. So here are some of the routines and habits I have put in place (or am working to put in place) to help me get control of my mind and emotions. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. And if you don’t feel like you have anyone to talk to, I’m here! I remember when my DD was 5 weeks old, colicky and in a sling non-stop feeling just as you do now - that it was interminable. But having a general idea of the structure my day will have helps my mind to relax. But I wasn't diagnosed for 3 years and I don't want that to happen to anyone else. One day at a time. There is quiet and peace in the house and I am able to pray and spend time reading my Bible. If you are feeling the same helplessness its worth discussing it with someone. Want to give you a hug as it really will be ok and I totally understand. There were dishes to wash, laundry to clean and fold, floors that needed sweeping, a toddler to play and engage with, and a newborn to snuggle and nurture. I’m rushing to get the dishes done, my shower in, clothes folded...and time reading my bible and in prayer just straight up does not happen. That is the issue here that is driving you crazy. Again, more great advice...thanks. He loves us, and wants to give us the grace, patience, peace, and motivation to mama our babies. You are not alone. ! I know when I am tired I am more irritable, less patient, and more likely to feel overwhelmed and inadequate. The bouncers (2 of them, one upstairs, one downstairs) probably saved us from insanity. I bought a pack of 10 or 12 of the sticker ones which are A4 sized. I found I literally could not comprehend that ds would get older and it wouldn't always be so hard. I thought I'd never cope but now have 4! I know that my brain is going to feel the way my house looks. So if I am feeling tired, I am going to try and take a nap when my kids are. Copyright text 2020 by Mama's Mornings. In some ways I am cool with getting help, and in other ways I am not. It's early days. Three points to remember when I find myself comparing: 2. It's simple but it works. If you don't have one it may be and idea as they all seem to love it and boy it keeps you sane.Because baby is used to being held you may need to re teach baby so that it is soothed enough to be in the bouncer. I finally got one of my baby twins to fall asleep when my three-year-old yelled, “Mama!” On cue, the baby woke up crying hysterically, and now both kids were crying for me. I would pick him up, soothe him and put him back down again. I've heard this before, and I'm sure you have too, but if you are like me there are times when I think I really need to get the dishes done, or fold laundry instead. Everyone's a winner. The most important thing though is that it will pass sooo quickly and before you know it they will be thick as thieves. Especially when your toddler’s waking up with your baby. 2. But to do this I need to have an assigned place to put that stuff! Turns out it wasn't and actually the time has flown! Expert Bio. While that may be cold comfort during the early days, it's a start. Plus, Barnhill adds, babies are brilliant at picking up on our emotions. This is so important, even when it doesn’t feel like it. But I can assure you, the MOST important item on that list is maintaining your relationship with God, honoring him, and letting Him meet your needs. Anyone else feel this way? We're going to find out exactly what that means, and hopefully reassure you coming up next on The Scope. 2. 3 Actions You Can Take Today To Get Better Sleep Tonight, 5 Best Teas To Help You Sleep Better At Night. You are not a shit mum, otherwise you would not care at all and would not post on here for help.I only have the one child and dread having a second and being in the place you are right now but here is some objective advice anyway.Ok. I'm not saying that's what it is, you're just knackered and hormonal . Do this over and over and you should notice that gradually she will soothe. And gradually it got better. And stop being so hard on yourself. Sounds like exactly what you're doing. You have a newborn for goodness sakes! My top tips would be:Special trips with someone else for toddler in morning/ special time with mummy in the afternoon whilst someone else is holding baby/walking it round the block in pram or sling.other things I found I could do with both that helped me were:Special box of toys for toddler to play with while baby is feedingReading out loud (after a while you learn to read and breastfeed at the same time, and you can all lie down)Listening to song cd'sGetting toddler to sing to baby (one of my favourites because she got good at it and then I could read/mnet)Sorting activities for toddler (dry pasta, beans etc in one big pot and they sort them into little bowls). Announcer: Medical news and research from University of Utah physicians and specialists you can use for a happier and healthier life. It gets in your head like nothing else. But go to docs and be honest about it all.You aren't alone, and come on here to offload anytime. I'm glad we've helped. I never let him cry during that time for more than a few minutes max. I wish we'd done it the other way around and sent DD1 so I could have had time with my precious boy. So get help if you need it, everyone needs help. But I also know that I don't have to feel this way, or at least I can put some routines in place that will help to lessen the overwhelm. A baby fed well usually plays happily. And people, we don’t need any more irritation coming from me, my husband can assure you of that. Co-sleeping benefits. With all that help and support, what right do I have to feel overwhelmed? Interviewer: If you're feeling a little bit overwhelmed with your newborn, it's totally natural because it's hard having a newborn. I felt like I had that down, no problem. PS don't be too hard on yourself! Doc suggested topping up after feeds so I can get a bit of respite with ds. I was nursing my 3 week old, toys of every variety were strung about the living room, and diapers, wipes, and burps cloths were drowning me. What's the big difference between how I feel when I am wakened by my toddler vs. when I get up on my own terms? Toddler & Newborn... feeling overwhelmed : Is anyone struggling to juggle a toddler and a newborn? ticklemonster I get your point but her crying sends me into a spin, reinforced by the knowledge that lots of books say you mustn't leave baby to cry that any sensible perspective is lost. There is nothing good that can come from comparing myself to other moms (yes, I have a lot I can learn from other mamas, but learning from is different than comparing to). Here we go: This one is probably the #1 habit I need to keep up, because I know how important my Mama’s Morning is for me. I asked my DH to take DD1 out at weekends even for just half an hour into the garden so I could play with DS alone. So much better that we now have DD2! Anything is worth a go.Good luck xxxx. I sat and cried. Who said that? I just really want to enjoy this time but waking up in the morning to face a new day fills me with dread. Linda Lewis, research psychologist and author of “When Blessings don’t count”, looks at this issue with great empathy. Take advantage of that and use it as an excuse as needed . oh yes yes to what mumofthree says: ask the nanny to take the baby for a whizz round the block for an hour while you have some time with your DS. Introducing a new baby to your toddler is challenging enough, especially with the baby’s constant crying.Now you need to care for both of them… at the same time. Good Luck and hang on in there.x. I would let my little one cry for very short periods. Your current challenges will eventually fade into memory, leaving you feeling like a rock star for having navigated them without completely losing your mind. 8:30 Baby Nap/Toddler Playtime. The first few weeks I felt like I needed to get out of the house, not because I wanted to, but because I felt obligated to take my oldest kiddo somewhere and keep his day packed. Don't worry about ds, you have brought an extra source of love, fun and playmate into his family. Thank you all so much for all your excellent and sensible advice. lots of cushions in front of the sofa or bench. I felt like the meanest mum in the world I may not responded to each of your posts personally but literally every single one has been so gratefully received. My little one was a star baby, but it was my first stab at it and I had no support. Thank you ...again... You've set me off again! I am usually a fairly calm, maybe even a laid back, parent but the feeling of overwhelm has been, at times, suffocating over the past month. And we will make it! Here are my top tips to make flying with a toddler AND a baby easier! More from Expert. I could still intentionally engage with my kiddo and give him a fun day without rushing to get two kiddos ready and out the door, then hurrying home to nurse, squeezing in a quick lunch, and scurrying my two year old off to his nap. Thanks again for a great article! But I had to keep reminding myself why I wanted to have another child. Resentful of DD1 for taking all my time away from DS. Ok, DS and DD1 weren't playing together yet, but hopefully they would in the future. We want to help you get through this period, and start to more often feel that you’re flourishing as a mum! In a way, I felt like I was dying a slow death. I had it with ds and I recognise the same feelings of helplessness as last time I'm usually very measured and have things under control so when things get like this, it's hard to be objective. Take care xxx. There were dishes to wash, laundry to clean and fold, floors that needed sweeping, a toddler to play and engage with, and a newborn to snuggle and nurture. Yup - been there. The poor kid has had such a raw deal - I had a terrible pregnancy with dd and was quite poorly for much of it and now I have a baby constantly clamped to me and/ or crying. Anyone else? Of course you miss that as I bet your ds is a lot of fun like mine. l. lojo461. Sling was a lifesaver - disagree you can "teach" a baby they want to be held, that's just the way they're wired!Hang in there, you're all adjusting, you're doing brilliantly. Everytime i try to put her down she cries - I have been using a sling which has partially helped but every thing is so stressful when I try to play with, feed or do bedtime with toddler ds. Feeling overwhelmed : It’s been one of those mornings when you just wake up and everything makes you cry.. I’m just feeling so overwhelmed. Secondly today should of been my baby shower, celebrating with my friends and family. To keep that in check, me and my little guy are working on being more diligent in picking up after activities, doing the dishes right after we use them, and keeping my diaper/nursing/spit up-preventing basket tidy. We may be tired, we may feel inadequate, and we may be overwhelmed. Making the bed takes about 3 minutes, and this 3 minutes is totally worth the time if it keeps my mind clear and prevents unwanted irritants during the day. When I wake up before the rest of my family, I feel like I have more control of my day. I'm in a bit of a hurry but couldn't leave your post unanswered as I could have written it 6yrs ago when DD1 was new and DS1 was 20mths. If that mom of eight has eight, she has probably been a mom longer than I. Don’t compare yourself with a mom of ten years vs. me, going on 3 years. I feel so alone, I am always by myself at home with my toddler who is really testing me at that moment. Just a little something that takes 10 minutes or so, to help make me feel like I have a bit of control over the organization of my home. Write me an email and we can bond over feeling inadequate, overwhelmed, and then encourage each other along the way! But I can assure you, the MOST important item on that list is maintaining your relationship with God, honoring him, and letting Him meet your needs. Waking up early, before the kids, isn't an easy habit to build. The first day I got back into my morning routine with God after my second son was born, I felt a sense of anticipation for the day that I had not felt since his birth. We all get times like this. For real, please connect if you need some encouragement, or just a friend to listen. I've got 3 20 months apart and we did a lot of reading while I fed. I could have written your exact post about 3 months ago. Its really really hard, but you can do it! Tbh, I think the first 6mths passed in a blur.But, it does get easier and more enjoyable. My 5 week old daughter is pretty fussy, I can hardly put her down. After DD1 was born I felt dreadful for turning DS's life upside down. This checklist is the starting point for a new way of living! I’m trying to feed my newborn, who is cluster feeding and crying, whilst comfort | Powered by WordPress, Overcome Overwhelm with A Newborn and Toddler, I feel like I have more control of my day. I promise I will, too. I just had my baby yesterday morning and prior to this, my 2.5 year old was my whole world. Making … How about asking the nanny to take your dd and you spend some time with your ds? You sound like a lovely Mum & I'm sure it'll get gradually easier. So yes, I feel like total loser some days for not being able to get my crap together. It gets better and seemingly in a blink of an eye they are both at school and you are longing for them to be a baby again. Life got a whole lot harder once I was trying to juggle life with a toddler and newborn. You sound like you are doing an awesome job xxAs mumofthreekids suggests, perhaps the nanny could free you up to play with ds - I think this would do you the world of good. Because baby is used to being held you may need to re teach baby so that it is soothed enough to be in the bouncer. I love helping moms wake up early, before the kids, because I truly believe that is key to loving your life as a stay at home mom. Toddler needs to come first so baby needs to be able to be put down. Imagine its just pregnancy hormones. You know how quickly this stage goes.I breast fed and topped up with formula which seemed to keep my little one contented. There is nothing worse than a hungry cranky toddler and a crying newborn. But how much intense parenting they need, possibly including frequent nursing, in the second year depends for the most part on their inborn timetable for emotional development. Dreading it because he's my baby From what friends have said, you kind of put the toddler first and bundle the baby into a sling for a couple of months. Feeling very tired from running after my 2 year old all day (also up a lot of nights as my son is not a great sleeper) and pregnant let alone what I'll be like when I have the newborn? Not a criticism though. Two Changes I Made To Get More Calm Back Into My Life, 6 Ways To Boost Your Confidence With Your Morning Routine, 8 Things Every Mom Can Be Grateful For Even When Times Are Tough. It's normal for your toddler to feel a range of feelings about this new change in his family. are all different from mine. More by Expert; Baby bag necessities. Our nanny has already offered to take out dd so I can spend time with ds but dd's feeding has been so constant (she had problems with her palate so my supply has been affected) that up until now I haven't been able to reliably leave her. Transcript. 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